Applying for a job online is like playing the computer in a fighting game for the first time.
You have to get beat down while gaining experience to make it to the next level.
…..and then there are those that cheat…..
Lies and deceit are like cheat codes.
They can only get you so far. When it’s time to face the real challenge, you can’t work the joystick because you have no knowledge of the moves.
For years, rejection had been an issue for me when I applied for jobs.
I let it get me down to a point where I wanted to give up on myself.
Before reaching my breaking point, I did what people normally do to get a better job. I went to school, got good grades, graduated, and built a better ME…..
It didn’t work and I soon felt I was reaching that breaking point again.
I thought it was me and I thought I wasn’t good enough….but none of that was or is true.
I never saw myself as a threat and I never threatened anyone’s job. I saw this as me needing more experience to go along with my education….but what wasn’t clear to me then is clear to me now:
- I am a threat.
- I still never threatened anyone’s job.
- I have plenty of experience.
- I carried duties without the title or the pay.
- I worked extra hard to get nowhere with the companies I worked for.
So I decided to do things I said I would never do and things that I always wanted to do:
- I started networking.
- I started a business.
- I started a blog.
- I still apply for jobs and get upset, but now I tell myself it’s not me, they’re just not ready for someone like me.
- I make it my business to keep learning.
- I say no.
- I give everything at least one chance.
- I give people second chances. Not third or fourth chances.
- I never treat anyone the way I was treated.
- I don’t let people use me.
- I like making mistakes because I learn from them.
- I stopped trying to control things I cannot control.
- I stopped putting time into people that do not want to help themselves.
- I bite my tongue……..when I am asleep.
- I think deeply.
- I dream with my eyes open.
- I pay attention to everything.
- I follow my first mind.
- I take no for an answer.
- I write things down.
- I remember who I was, I know who I’ve become, I am proud of who I am, and I love myself.
Ever since I moved out on my own and something didn’t go as planned, I said to myself, “It sucks to be me.”
I didn’t stop there, I just found something else interesting to learn and master rather than giving up on myself.
I’ve always heard, “Never look back.” Just because there are things you want to forget and never go back to, you must not forget those things (good or bad) are the reason for you successes today.
The mistakes you’ve made are just as responsible as your good decisions for who you are now. Learning the hard way is something to be proud of, not to be ashamed of. Your memories do not come back to haunt you. They are just a reminder of how hard you worked.