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Notes-vember Day 9

Hey Sweeties,

Today is Day 9 of Notes-vember, and while there was no live yesterday or make-up live for today, I’m still here to post and work with you on getting through another day. I hope your day started on a positive note. If your day didn’t start the way you wanted it to start, make the best of it.

Today I baked cookies for a project I’m working on this month. So, I was in the moment and didn’t let anything get me out of my happy place. But, yes, I had to call the school today to get something straightened out and, in turn, had to go to the school because my son wasn’t feeling well.

Life Story

When I was in my most stressed moments for the last few years, I would dread going to or calling the school because there was always something going on. It had gotten to a point where I would wake up and wonder what was going to happen or what story the children would come home with that would have me flying off the rails. When talking to the staff to try and understand what was going, (I understood them) it seemed they didn’t feel where I was coming from or what I was trying to say.

I said that to say this–and without going into deeper detail, I no longer let that get to me. My husband and Mom helped me get through that. I started letting go of things that upset me and started handling things differently. No, I’m not perfect, but I work through it every day. Sometimes I stumble, but I make sure I get back up. I take a little time to myself, but I don’t dwell on issues as much as I used to. Every day, I see my improvements, and I praise myself for it. Its nothing wrong with congratulating yourself on your minor victories.

Motivation

An untroubled mind, no longer seeking to consider what is right and what is wrong, a mind beyond judgements, watches and understands.

Buddha
  • When something comes across your path, handle it in the most positive way possible. If it upsets you, allow yourself to be upset for a quick moment to get passed your feelings. Remind yourself that its okay to get upset, be sad, and be joyful. Emotions are emotions for a reason. Good or bad, don’t let them cloud your judgement or change your focus.
  • Its not always good to focus on who is right/wrong or what is right/wrong. Right or wrong, it happened that way and we need to work passed it. Take it as a lesson.
  • While not losing our focus or spending countless hours trying to determine what/who was right or wrong. Allow yourself to understand, be mindful of your actions, and let it go.

Reflection

  • Have you every been so upset or sad that it just tore you down and you formatted your memory tasks like an SD card? Have you ever been so excited and happy about something that you lost focus and caused issue?
  • Have you ever thought back on how you handled a situation and wish you had handled it differently?
  • Have you ever found yourself so defensive and reacting before thinking? Is this a natural reaction for you?

As you sit down, take a deep breath, and relax to reflect on your day, think about how you handle yourself. Do you feel you manage things more positively or more negatively? Do you think before you react? Some believe that they should give others the “same energy” that others are giving them. That’s not always the case. There is a time and place for that.

Before you’re quick to judge, think about what someone else is going through or what may have just happened to them. Did they get bad news? Did they stub their toe? Did they lose something valuable? You may say, why should I care or why should I take the time to think about that? WHY? Have you ever had a moment where you were so upset, and someone came in to say something that added more pressure or upset you more? I’m sure you have. Did you find yourself saying, “They don’t know what I’m going through…” You expected that person to know that there was something wrong or that something was bothering you. You’d be amazed at how quickly you can answer those questions. Did they get bad news? etc. All you have to do is look at their face or body language before speaking. If you’re on the phone, take in their tone. There are ways we can get a clue about how someone may be feeling. If you’re unsure, it’s still best to approach the situation on a peaceful and positive note. I’m not saying don’t be stern or hold your ground. What I’m saying is to THINK. Reacting without thinking can do more harm than good.

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Notes-vember Day 8

Hey Sweeties,

Today is Day 8! I hope your day is going well. If your day didn’t start as you wanted, make the rest of your day the best. Today would usually be live stream day, but the day was full of appointments and errands. It was an exciting day. It was outside my ordinary—no crafting, no desk time, cookie making, etc.

Motivation

The universe is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to become sharper.

Eden Phillpotts
  • Look for and do the things that bring out the best in you. Eliminate the unnecessary tasks and things that set you back.
  • Look for people with similar interests, which makes you feel comfortable while diving into your new adventures. You’ll then see who you can keep in your life and who you can let go of or distance yourself.
  • Don’t forget to enjoy yourself, what you’re doing, and the people that lift you.

Reflection

As you sit down, take a deep breath, and relax, think about what doors you should be opening and closing. Think about the places you can go, the things you can do, and the people you can meet.

  • What things do you find yourself doing every day that has no meaning and is a complete waste of time? Are they holding you back? Do they make you unhappy? Do you ask yourself why you’re doing it over and over as if things are going to get better?
  • Do the people in your life have a purpose of holding you back or lifting you and growing with you? Do they show that they appreciate you?
  • Do you forget to enjoy what you love or do things because of what someone in your life may say about it?

Whatever your answers are to these questions, I want you to be honest with yourself when answering them. Sharpen those senses to discover those magical things out there. Don’t waste your time surrounding yourself with the wrong vibes and people. If you have to wonder if the person closest to you will see the beauty in something or understand your excitement, think about it. Do you always want to be hesitant because they make you feel uncomfortable? That’s not the wondering you want to do. Break free of that and be you.

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Notes-vember Day 7

Hey Sweeties,

Here is Day 7! We’re finishing the first week of Notes-vember. I hope everyone is well-rested and is off to a good start. Even if your day didn’t start as you expected, you’re going to make it through. So, get yourself in a positive light and push on.

Before we get into the motivation and reflection, how was the first week of Notes-vember? Do you want to carry on for the rest of the month, or are you not feeling it? Do you feel like you’ve given it enough of a chance before discontinuing the journey?

Whatever your answers are to those questions, answer them with all honesty, and don’t leave yourself in a position where you wish you had stopped or continued. Be clear with yourself and give valid reasons for your decisions.

Notes-vember is something new, but finding things out there such as devotionals and other daily motivational activities aren’t new. Not everyone participates in these things either. Not everyone feels the need,, and for some, it’s a must. Sometimes we need to listen to something regularly to get things going. Whatever it is that gets your day going and keeps you positive; I encourage you to do it.

Motivation

I always believe that in order to be great in something, we have to be in the moment.

Ta’u Pupu’a
  • Do what works for you and make sure you’re comfortable with it.
  • Allow yourself to accept it and completely commit to it.
  • Don’t think starting something new is something you can’t handle. Give it a chance.

Reflection

As you sit down, take a deep breath, and relax, you can reflect on your day. Think about the new things you’ve started recently and how they affect your life.

  • List the things you’ve started. What do you actually keep up with? Which ones seem to be a waste of your time? Which ones benefit you the most? How do you feel after completing your session?
  • Which ones are you fully commited to?
  • How do you feel about starting something new? Do you consider it an incovenience or are you ready to give it a chance before you throw it to the side?

We try something new every day without thinking twice about it. Some require a long-term commitment and some don’t. We tend to gravitate toward the things that don’t take much thought because we get so caught up in what we have going on. We don’t want to add to our day or our workload, but who says it has to be an addition to a workload or some dreaded task. It can be something fun, relaxing, or something that changes the monotony of our every day routine.

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Notes-vember Day 6

Hey Sweeties,

It’s Day 6 of Notes-vember. I did sleep well last night. Thank you to those that wished me a good night’s sleep. I woke up later than usual this morning, but I feel good. I hope everyone’s day is off to a good start, and I hope the day continues in positivity. Even if your day didn’t start as you wanted, let’s make the best of it anyway. Don’t let it bring you down, and keep your head high.

There are days when I feel I can’t start the day. There are times when I feel stuck and get overwhelmed by that very action. The worst thing I can do to myself is to do nothing. Before I started working on myself and getting myself to a better place, I would sit and worry about how something would turn out, or how I was “missing” something, how something was going to get done. That can be a day killer. I already have moments when I feel guilty about not getting enough done in a day (which I’m working on and getting better at), but I would be even more beat down knowing I didn’t do something I really would have been proud of or enjoyed doing.

When I feel like I can’t start a day, I first think about what I tell my kids. Stop saying you “can’t” do it; say that it’s “difficult” to do. For one, life isn’t easy, so we need to stop thinking that it is or will be.

With things already being difficult, please don’t make them more challenging by thinking about how difficult they will be. You’re putting more weight on your shoulders, and you’re preparing yourself for the worst when the worst doesn’t have to happen. We make non-existent things existent when we insert them where they shouldn’t be inserted.

Don’t sit and do nothing; take control of your day because only YOU can make your day what it’s going to be. Yes, there will be obstacles, mistakes made, and things that make you change your route or process, but don’t let that stop you.

Motivation

I’ve seen people utterly transformed by doing nothing more than taking control of their breath.

James Nestor
  • Think fast, don’t dwell.
  • Allow yourself to process what just happened, don’t dwell.
  • Come up with a solution or two, don’t dwell.
  • Move forward with your new action, don’t dwell on what caused you to make the change.

Reflection

As you sit down, take a deep breath, and relax, you can now reflect on your entire day. Think about what happened and what may have caused the change in your moves, but don’t dwell. Dwelling on the issue will only stir you up and stress you.

  • When you wake up in the morning with something on your mind, does it control your day or do you control it? Do you find yourself staying in bed thinking about it more than you should and time blows by?
  • When something throws a wrench in what you’re doing, do you take it on and work around it or do you sit and dwell on how much its inconveniencing you?
  • At the end of your day, do you replay the things that didn’t work out the way you wanted them to over and over again without stopping at some point to say, “hey, this may have been the reason for this happening”?

We’re all human, and there will always be an obstacle, a worry, a not-so-good result, or something that will make us roll our eyes and say, “ugh, why today?” We don’t have complete control over these things, but we play a part in the severity of the result—an excellent to a terrible outcome. Good or bad, remember that you did your best with what you had to work with, and you made it through.

I have an extra quote for you today:

When you find something to be an incovenience, dwelling on it changes the balance and you’re then incoveniencing yourself.

Thelisha Thomas
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Notes-vember Day 5

Hey Sweeties,

Here we are! Day 5 and almost through the first week of Notes-vember. I hope everyone’s day is started on a positive note and will continue on a positive note. Even if your day didn’t start as good as you wanted it to, still make the best of it. Don’t let that one thing bring you down.

Last night, I got almost no sleep. Honestly, I slept for nearly 4 hours. When I looked at the sleep monitor on my phone this morning, and it says I slept for 3 hours and 50 minutes, the first thing I thought to myself was, “I’m gonna be a miserable soul today.” I got out of bed so many times last night, I couldn’t sleep, but I was comfortable. Instead of keeping the thought on my mind that I would be a miserable soul, I did something I don’t do regularly. I mean, like, rarely. I got on the treadmill and started walking. To be here and typing this now; I feel pretty good to say I got such little sleep.

I said that to say this–; I didn’t let one thing I knew I needed to get me down. I will do what I have to do throughout the day and take my time doing it. That’s like the speed bump I mentioned yesterday. I need to slow down. I also said something about the use of time. I will make the best of my day, get what I can get done, and do what I need to do.

Motivation

We need to stop focusing on setting perfectionistic goals

Michelle Segar
  • There are only 24 hours in a day and we are only one person. There is only so much we can do with this time and one-person team we’re on most of the time. Yes, we have spouses, family members, children, and friends that can help, but that doesn’t change the things that us as an individual need to get done. Don’t pack a bunch of stuff on your to-do list for one day because you’re going be upset at the day’s end when you realize you didn’t finish everything. List by priority and due dates.
  • Set realistic goals. This is something being taught in school, but to understand how setting a realstic goal makes it easier to accomplish makes a difference. Don’t set unrealistic goals, you’ll only set yourself back. Setting goals will allow you to focus on one of many steps it takes to complete that goal at a time. Give yourself time to get it done.
  • Stop thinking you have to be perfect in someone else’s eyes. In that moment you connect eyes awkwardly and turn away, you two may be thinking the same thing. How can I impress that person? What do I need to do to be favorable in that person’s eyes? Instead of asking those questions, impress YOURSELF first and be favorable in YOUR own eyes. Only YOU can make YOU happy in the end. When someone else makes you laugh or smile, its only an addition to the happiness you’re already feeling. Think of it has you playing one of those running games or racing games. You’re already moving fast, you just need a boost to get a better place in the race. You’re already happy, but a little laughter or a smile is the extra boost. Similar to the “greener” grass mentioned in yesterday’s post, it’s not always greener, and if it is, it has to be maintained in the same way yours does.

Reflection

  • Yesterday, I asked you to think about how you used your time throughout the day. Today, how do you feel about how much time is in a day? Do you prioritize your goals? How do you prioritize your tasks?
  • Do you have goals set for yourself right now? If so, write them down exactly as you speak them out or have them written elsewhere. How do those goals sound once you read them out loud? Is your goal geared toward accomplishing one thing? Can you see your progress as you work toward completion? Can you complete the goal? Does it make sense? Are you giving yourself enough time to get it done?
  • Do you feel you have to impress someone or many people? Do you build your day around keeping a certain image that tires you out at the end of the day? Do you feel your grass has to be as green as the person or persons you’re trying to impress?

When you sit down, take a deep breath, and relax. Reflect on your day. Remind yourself that all grass isn’t always green. Everyone’s grass goes through seasons in the same way the grass growing from the earth does. Look outside and check out the grass as the weather changes. You’ll see.

We all have goals, things we want to improve, and things we want to get done daily, but stressing yourself about it will only hold you back. No, we can’t altogether avoid stress, but we can lessen it. We can let go of the things that we shouldn’t worry about or can’t control. If it’s going to happen, it’s going to happen whether we like it or not. It’s better to be prepared for it than to fear it. When I say prepare, I don’t mope, and “what-if” yourself or completely shut your world down. I want you to tell yourself that it’s going to be okay, and you’re going to make it through.

In the same way, misery loves company, so does success. Anything that something negative likes, the positive likes it just as well. The only difference is, you feel better about it when you’re handling it in a positive way versus a negative way.

Here’s an additional quote for you from me:

Those in misery gather to bring those close to them down, while those eager to succeed and see success in others team up and grow.

Thelisha Thomas

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Notes-vember Day 4

Hey Sweeties,

Today is Day 4 of Notes-vember! I hope everyone’s day started on a positive note and hope the day continues with positivity. How has your daily routine been going since starting Notes-vember? Does it make your day better? Does it feel you added something extra to your day that you don’t want to do? Or are you still having difficulty picking up the habit?

Habits

There are so many things said about habits out there that we don’t know what to believe. For example, I read that it takes 21 days to form a habit. At the same time, somewhere else says that it can take 18 to 254 days to develop a routine and an average of 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic. There is also a 21/90 rule, where it’s said to take 21 days to form a habit and 90 days to make a permanent lifestyle change.

Whatever the case is or however long it takes to form a habit, build a routine, or make a permanent lifestyle change, you can do it. We’re all different, and we all have a different lifestyle than someone in our family, friends, or colleagues.

How I feel about habits and routines, I live a hectic life. Even though I no longer work a 9 to 5, I still have a husband, five children, and a dog. I run a business, and I’m a YouTube content creator. There was one point in my life where I worked two jobs, ran my business, created content for YouTube, and still handled my business as a Mother and a Wife. I said that to say this–habits and routines came to me naturally, so did change. Very few things stayed precisely the same while I had all that going on, but I always left room for things to change and error. Not that I planned for the worst, but I made myself available to act immediately. Where I could drop what I was doing to move as I had to, I’m not saying change and building a routine is easy. What I’m saying is, YOU CAN DO IT.

Obstacles

We all have obstacles in life. There are those “when it rains, it pours” times, but you have to push through that. Those obstacles are just speed bumps. Speed bumps are there to slow you down because you need to slow down. If you don’t slow down, you may miss or forget something. So take that time to slow down and put your entire focus on how to make it work rather than getting upset and giving up.

Motivation

The most important thing has been to take a step back and define what time well spent actually means for me–and not because I’m comparing myself to others.

Anne-Laure Le Cunef
  • We always need to step back, no matter how many times in a day, week, or month. Stepping back to see what you have going on and reminding yourself of what you want to have going on will keep you on your path. It will make choosing at the fork in the road less stressful. Stepping back means to sit, take a deep breath, and think about your current situation.
  • Instead of comparing yourself or situation to someone else’s, analyze it. As long as you’re doing it as a way to prepare. Leave all the whys and hows of someone else’s result out because yours is going to be different. Your decisions are going to be different and your moves are going to be different. Remind yourself that your situation is different no matter how similar it may seem to the situation you’re analyzing. What you can learn from someone else’s experience is what not to do. Then again, how will you learn. Mistakes are one way we learn. Don’t let analyzing run the show. There is also a such thing as over analyzing. This can create more fear and distress.

Reflection

  • Think about how you use your time throughout the day. Think about how much time you take for yourself, for your family. How do you feel your time was spent?
  • If you have this habit, think about how much you sit and compare yourself to someone else or your situation to someone else’s situation.
  • Are you prepared to make mistakes? Did analyzing the situation make you a little less fearful in making that move?

When you sit down to relax and reflect on your day, take a deep breath. Remind yourself that habits and routines take time; it’s not an overnight event. You aren’t any less of a good, productive, or positive person just because it takes a little longer to get into the rhythm of things.

Remember to analyze, not compare yourself or your situation to others. The grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Both yours and the “greener” lawn need to be maintained. It’s about what it takes to maintain that lawn. If you feel their lawn is beautiful, think about what they had to do or go through to get there. It takes work and focus. That all starts with YOU. What they do to maintain their lawn may not be what your lawn needs.

You have to be ready to make mistakes. We’re all human, and we all make mistakes. We make them, and we learn from them. They guide us and help us show those we’re are raising and teaching. So even as you teach, teach that not all things will go as planned. That even with preparation, mistakes are still made, and lessons are here for learning.

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Notes-vember Day 3

Hey Sweeties,

Today is Day 3 of Notes-vember! I hope everyone is awake, well-rested, and motivated. Get your tags and journal out so we can get started (if you haven’t gotten started already).

Things to Remember

If your Notes-vember journey starts a little rough, remind yourself that you’re trying something different. You’re pretty much building a new habit and adding something to your day. So take your time, go with your flow and allow yourself to get it done.

  1. Find a quote for YOUR day. Pick one that touches you and is going to help you make it through the day. Something you can replay in your head and you can’t wait to reflect upon at the end of the day. You can also use the quotes here. The quotes I post are from interviews I listen to from people that have dealt with some of the same things I’ve dealt with or am currently dealing with.
  2. Write it down in your journal and read it to yourself. Ask yourself how it relates to you and your current situtation. Maybe even a past situation you’re finding it hard to overcome.
  3. At the end of the day, once you’ve wound down, everyone is fed, and the kids are bathed and in bed, sit and think about your day. Get out your journal and write about it. Write about what you’re grateful for and how proud of yourself you are. Remind yourself how you made it through another day. Give yourself something to talk about and be happy about, even if the day wasn’t the best. You’re still here to talk about it.

Motivation

Sometimes we need to open ourselves up to experiencing a particular slice that we’ve been inhibiting or denying in order to grow as a whole person.

Scott Barry Kaufman
  • Don’t be afraid to start your day, a task, a hobby, or a new career because of a “what-if”.
  • You can only feel and understand the experience when you immerse yourself. Learn to get comfortable and allow yourself to be free. Give whatever you’re doing, your undivided attention.
  • Don’t worry about what may stop you or what you have to do in the next hour, use the time you have to enjoy and do what you need to do. Let everything flow.

Reflection

This is the point where you get out your journal and write. You can ask yourself different questions, or you can take questions from previous Notes-vember posts. Here are some questions you can add to your list as well:

  • How often do you feel afraid before starting something? Were you afraid today? What can you do to get passed being afraid? What about “IT” makes you afraid?
  • Why is it so hard for you to get immersed? Is there something stopping you? If so, what can you do to make things work in your favor without causing issues elsewhere?
  • Is time an issue for you when starting something new or when you want to do something you enjoy? Is there a way to get around this?

As you sit, take a deep breath, and relax, remind yourself that its nothing wrong with being afraid but, you have to be ready. It may not be today, tomorrow, or the next week, but you’ll know when you’re ready. That tiny bit of fear will be there until you take that step. Once you step forward, the fear slowly starts to fade away.

There is a difference between procrastination and not being ready. Be able to tell the difference between the two and remember that only YOU can tell YOU when to start, stop, and go. Only YOU can hold YOU back. Procrastination is being ready, but not taking action. Not being ready is a little bit of fear and wonder that causes you to hesitate.