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Notes-vember Day 12

Hey Sweeties,

It’s Day 12, and it’s Friday! I don’t know how you prepare for your Fridays, but I sure prepare for 100 rounds of kid questions, sibling arguments, laughter, and everything else that comes with having a gang.

I hope everyone’s day started on a positive note and hope you finish out the day on the same note. If your day didn’t start as expected, change that and make it the best.


You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.

Steve Maraboli
  • Do what you do and do it like you mean it. If there is no meaning behind what you’re doing, why are you doing it?
  • Own it. Its not you if you don’t own it.
  • Don’t be afraid of what you’re doing and where you’re doing it.


This post is close to yesterday’s post. No matter how many different ways you say it. No matter how many ways you read it. You have to do what’s best for you. One of my managers many years ago told me that I needed to take care of myself first. If I didn’t take care of myself, how would I take care of my children?

It’s not selfish; it’s not crazy; it’s not ugly. You have to be good and be happy before you go out and try to do good elsewhere. Of course, you can fight that and say, “oh, well, I can still do good for other people even when I’m down.” Right, you can, but what going to be the type of attitude you have? What are you going to be thinking while you’re doing it? What is your body language going to show?

  1. “Let me hurry and do this so I can go about my business.”
  2. “Why am I doing this knowing how I feel right now? What are they going to do for me?”
  3. You’re going to look like you don’t feel like doing it.

As you sit down, take a deep breath, and relax, think about when you did something good, but you weren’t in the right headspace. Think about how you felt when someone did something for you, and you could feel the bad mood radiating off their bodies.

Have you ever had someone ask you if you were okay while you were doing something for them (Even if you didn’t have an attitude. You were so tired or frustrated about something else and trying to bottle it up)? Then, you pause and have that moment like, “dang, how do they know I’m not in the mood?” How do you answer? You lie, or you give them a bit about what’s going on.

So, don’t put yourself in a position where you aren’t taking care of yourself. You’re not going to want to do the good with good manners. You’re just going to do it and go. No meaning, no push behind your actions, and you hope that the person you’re dealing with at the moment doesn’t see through it.

2 thoughts on “Notes-vember Day 12

  1. That is some great advice! There have been many times when I was doing something with a grudging heart. I have learned to overcome doing that. Some times you just have to say “no” in order to take care of yourself. If not, you are going to get so overwhelmed with life’s expectations that you won’t have time for yourself. These Notes-vembers are very encouraging. Thanks so much for sharing!!!

    1. Hi Mrs. Sonya,
      Thank you for reading and your comment. I’ve done the same thing and I realized I was hurting myself in the end. It was so hard to say no to everyone else and so easy to ignore myself. As I got angrier about it, I started doing things with an attitude, and people saw it, no matter how much I tried to hide it. I was so torn down and holding on to too much at once. It took a while, but I’m glad I learned to treat myself as well as I did others. That I deserved it and that it was okay to say, “no, I can’t do that today.”

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