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Notes-vember Day 6

Hey Sweeties,

It’s Day 6 of Notes-vember. I did sleep well last night. Thank you to those that wished me a good night’s sleep. I woke up later than usual this morning, but I feel good. I hope everyone’s day is off to a good start, and I hope the day continues in positivity. Even if your day didn’t start as you wanted, let’s make the best of it anyway. Don’t let it bring you down, and keep your head high.

There are days when I feel I can’t start the day. There are times when I feel stuck and get overwhelmed by that very action. The worst thing I can do to myself is to do nothing. Before I started working on myself and getting myself to a better place, I would sit and worry about how something would turn out, or how I was “missing” something, how something was going to get done. That can be a day killer. I already have moments when I feel guilty about not getting enough done in a day (which I’m working on and getting better at), but I would be even more beat down knowing I didn’t do something I really would have been proud of or enjoyed doing.

When I feel like I can’t start a day, I first think about what I tell my kids. Stop saying you “can’t” do it; say that it’s “difficult” to do. For one, life isn’t easy, so we need to stop thinking that it is or will be.

With things already being difficult, please don’t make them more challenging by thinking about how difficult they will be. You’re putting more weight on your shoulders, and you’re preparing yourself for the worst when the worst doesn’t have to happen. We make non-existent things existent when we insert them where they shouldn’t be inserted.

Don’t sit and do nothing; take control of your day because only YOU can make your day what it’s going to be. Yes, there will be obstacles, mistakes made, and things that make you change your route or process, but don’t let that stop you.


I’ve seen people utterly transformed by doing nothing more than taking control of their breath.

James Nestor
  • Think fast, don’t dwell.
  • Allow yourself to process what just happened, don’t dwell.
  • Come up with a solution or two, don’t dwell.
  • Move forward with your new action, don’t dwell on what caused you to make the change.


As you sit down, take a deep breath, and relax, you can now reflect on your entire day. Think about what happened and what may have caused the change in your moves, but don’t dwell. Dwelling on the issue will only stir you up and stress you.

  • When you wake up in the morning with something on your mind, does it control your day or do you control it? Do you find yourself staying in bed thinking about it more than you should and time blows by?
  • When something throws a wrench in what you’re doing, do you take it on and work around it or do you sit and dwell on how much its inconveniencing you?
  • At the end of your day, do you replay the things that didn’t work out the way you wanted them to over and over again without stopping at some point to say, “hey, this may have been the reason for this happening”?

We’re all human, and there will always be an obstacle, a worry, a not-so-good result, or something that will make us roll our eyes and say, “ugh, why today?” We don’t have complete control over these things, but we play a part in the severity of the result—an excellent to a terrible outcome. Good or bad, remember that you did your best with what you had to work with, and you made it through.

I have an extra quote for you today:

When you find something to be an incovenience, dwelling on it changes the balance and you’re then incoveniencing yourself.

Thelisha Thomas

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